Wedding Registries: What to do and What not to do

After the bride or groom says yes to the ring, then what? of course, the next step is planning the big day. However, various corporations have integrated the option of a wedding registry. My assumption of the creation of such market (and wise too) is the prevention of unwanted gifts. Per say, an awkward lamp with a shape of two frogs kissing. Some may like, while others may find this gift tacky. Wedding registries solves this issue because the couple have the opportunity to pick their gifts before the wedding event. Yet, there are benefits and drawbacks of wedding registries.

As I mentioned before, many corporations started this program for various reasons. Of course (cough, cough), a guarantee of capital with the wedding season which commonly starts in May through June. Another reason is to promote their brand and gaining more customers to their store. Crate and Barrel, Walmart, Bloomingdale’s, Target and beyond dominates this market which is suitable for the customer seeking certain brands and price point.

For example, Crate and Barrel’s registrants benefits of a 10% discount card for six months after the wedding date. In addition, a private wedding registry event which closes the store for two hours. This is a one-on-one interaction with the associates if the couple have questions about the products. Others like Target offers easy returns and exchanges for a year. Another service through a secondary party is from Bed, Bath, and Beyond personalized stationary.

Yet, there are couples that exaggerate with their registries. Let’s avoid these intricacies.

Marriage in Lightyears

When a couple announces their engagement, it is a beautiful milestone;nonetheless, the event will not happen the next day. The appropriate time to open a registration is within 6 months to one year before the big day. Please do not open a registry 2 to 4 years for several reasons, but most importantly it’s too early.

Another reason is inventory. If the wedding is happening in three years, there’s a possibility 1/2 of that inventory will contain discontinued products. Also, be aware of seasonal items. For example, if the registrant starts adding items to their registry in December, then many of the products are Christmas themed or inspired.  Therefore, ask an associate which items are seasonal. If the word seasonal is throwing you off, seasonal means that the item will last for a short period of time.

It’s Not a Divorce

Managing a registry may turn into a guilt trip because couples may change their minds about the items they originally picked. It’s common to change their minds after the couple receive their gifts. And it’s okay to seek other products and returning them for store credit.

It’s a rare assumption, but it occurs when couples expect to have a cash refund or get every single gift from their registry. Another troubling realization is seeing an item as a purchased item and not receiving it. It sucks to say this, but there are guests that purchase the item from the registry and decides to keep it. Although it is a surprising news, let’s keep in mind the guest did pay for it, not the couple. Therefore, it’s impossible for the company to give away the undelivered product because it was paid for it. Of course, in other situations brings the sour the news that gift was lost. After a mituculous investigation from the company and the couple, some companies may replace the item. It depends on the companies policies and rules about registries.

The Necessary Absurdaty of Reality

Why did I get 24 wine glasses when I just registered for 8?! If this happens to you, there’s a possibility the registry was a high maintenance one. What I mean with the term of high maintenance? Is that the registry had a couture price tag with guests that earn 20,000 a year…that’s silly.

When opening registry ask yourself and with your significant other: Can we afford this item? Do we really need it? If I was a guest , would I buy this? It’s easy to ask beyond our needs. Keep in mind the income of your guests too. It’s absurd to add items worth above $150.00 with friends earning $9.50 an hour/ part-time. If the cheapest item in your registry are wine glasses, then that’s an easy way to get easy repeats. It’s not a coincidence, your registry was a bridezilla for your guests.

My best advice is to keep your registry short and sweet. Unless the wedding is a huge one (500 guests), it is reasonable to have 5-6 pages. But, I kindly ask to not register for a sofa. If your friends are part of Forbes list of millionaires, I will expect an eccentric wish list.

3-4 pages long is a reasonable amount of pages for a registry. Keep in mind the things you register for are items that will be part of your daily lives. Coffee mugs, flatware, and more are things that will have accessible prices for all kinds of incomes. Also, request the option for gift cards.

If the registry also offers gift cards, this is a pleasant suprising wild card. If a guest is currently in college and has a part time job and lives in a studio – this guest might be second guessing what to buy. With this option, this guest will buy the gift card. Life is already a stressful roller coaster, so why add more stress? The key is to keep it easy and simple.



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